Just Another Guy Enjoying Life

Why is it always easier to write about the darkness in our lives?  When I’m feeling down the words flow out of me like water.  So today I attempt something different.  I feel that it’s time for a more positive blog post.  I’m not saying that all of my previous posts have been negative but they haven’t always been about sharing good news.  That’s the reality of my story and my journey with cancer; it’s not always pretty.  I’m not going to lie and say that I wake up every day and feel that I am going to beat this thing, but lately I am starting to feel more and more ‘normal’.

I have continuously described cancer as a cloud that hovers over me.  Some days it’s larger than others but it’s always present.  There was a time where I thought about cancer every day.  Multiple times a day it would occupy my mind.  Since my last scan I can honestly say that the cloud is now very small and sometimes I don’t notice it at all.  There are even moments where I forget that I am dealing with such a horrible thing, and unless someone brings it up or I hear a story about another patient’s tragic cancer story, it’s not on my mind.

It’s actually quite weird to not think about it.  I remember Lynne telling me that things like this become part of your identity.  I thought that she was crazy and that I would never want to identify myself as a cancer patient.  Who would want that?  But she’s right, there’s something inside of me that does identify with this illness that I have been carrying around for much too long.

The awesome thing about that is that I am conscious of it.  I know that I have become this ‘guy with cancer’.  I think part of me actually liked the attention that it brought and all of the help that came with it.  There was always someone around to help me with anything I wanted.  You get use to it and eventually start to rely on it.  I know that sounds selfish but it’s the truth.

However, that is not how I want to live my life.  The goal is to become the ‘guy who beat cancer’ or simply just ‘another guy enjoying his life’.  I want nothing more.  Happiness is all that I pursue.  So the beauty of being conscious of the cancer identity that I have built is that I can now change it.  I want to be known for other things.  I want to be recognized as the guy who took a horrible diagnosis and turned it into something positive.  I don’t want people to feel sad for me or to not share their stories of struggle because they feel that it can’t compare with what I am going through.  This is not how I want people to feel around me.

It’s a balancing act where I am at today.  There’s part of me that wants to go back to my old ways, eating whatever I want and drinking whatever I desire, but there’s another part of me that knows that this is not what is best.  Over the past few months I have consciously let go of some of the more healthy habits I had created.  I think it was a test.  And the test failed because I now feel less alive than I did before.  I feel less stressed, however I don’t have the energy that I did when I was being more diligent with my lifestyle choices.  I’m not going to lose any sleep over it because I realize that the stress is unhealthier for me than anything I could eat or drink.  What I do know is that I need to find a better balance between the two.  I will never be a raw foodie or completely vegan again but I know I can create a lifestyle that is less stressful and healthier.  I am just being realistic with myself.

So as I sit here and drink my green smoothie I reflect on the fact that I will be 36 tomorrow.  When I was diagnosed I had just turned 30.  It actually brings tears to my eyes to see those numbers on the screen.  I have made it 6 years!  When I was diagnosed in 2009 I truly believed that I would be lucky to make it to 32.  Wow!

What truly makes me happy today is that we are now talking about the future.  When Lynne use to try to discuss the future with me I became very irritated.  I felt insulted that she wanted me to think forward.  I was so caught up in the illness that I didn’t believe there would ever be a future.  So why even talk about it?  Today I feel different.  I’m not sure my future will be as long as yours but I do know that there IS one.  That I DO have time left to pursue some of the dreams that I have.  This brings a smile to my face and creates an energy that I haven’t felt in a very long time.

In 2009 I remember crying in (unborn) Stella’s room and praying that I would live long enough for her to remember me.   That wish has now come true and I have created so many things for her and Gwen to remember me by if things take a different turn.  This past weekend was spent with my family at the lake I grew up on.  I watched Stella and Gwen experience what I did as a child and it made me glow from the inside.  That lake is a special place of mine and is where I go during visualizations if things get tough.  To see them at this place brought me nothing but pure joy.

So on the eve of my 36th birthday I can say that I am at a good place and I am happy.  And that’s simply all that matters!

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  1. Erin Lefler says:

    Dear Mark,
    I especially enjoyed reading this post.
    Happy Birthday to you!!

    • MarkNewman says:

      Hey Erin! It’s been a long time since I have seen you. Thanks for staying in touch. I’m happy to hear that you enjoyed the post today. I hope all is well with you!

  2. Laura McWade says:

    Happy Birthday Mark!

    Thanks for continuing your blog. I smiled extra big reading this one!

    • MarkNewman says:

      Hey Laura! We miss you in the hood. I noticed you purchased one of our shirts today. Thank you so much for your support. It means a lot to us.

  3. Jane says:

    Loved reading this blog post and feel uplifted and inspired.
    Happy Birthday!!

  4. Mom says:

    Your writing today was so wonderful to read. You have come so far in the journey you have been given. Your insight and strength give me such peace of mind as a mother. It was also a real treat to share the park with the girls. It also brought so many great memories to mind for me. Tomorrow 36 years ago a little bundle was placed in my arms. What a wonderful blessing you have been ever since. I hope your birthday is everything you hope for. Love you with all my heart. Mom.

  5. Debi/Larry Sarginson says:

    We are thrilled to be able to say HAPPY 36TH BIRTHDAY, MARK!!!! Wow, it has truly been a remarkable journey for not only you, but your entire family. So happy to see you alive to appreciate the little things that make life so worthwhile. We wish you a very Happy Birthday this year and many more in the future.
    With Love,
    Uncle Larry and Aunt Debi

    • MarkNewman says:

      Thank you Aunt Debi! I thought about you guys a lot this past weekend at the lake. We had a blast hanging out with Mike!

  6. Kath says:

    What a wonderful uplifting post!! Thrilled to know the apparel line is now available!
    HAPPY BIRTHDAY! Keep living strong!
    All the best wishes!
    Kath (#TEAMNANNY)

    P.S. I was filmed skateboarding for an amputee documentary. Andre caught a
    Bit of it on his phone….. You can see it here:

    • MarkNewman says:

      Hey Kath. It’s so good to hear from you. Thank you for your ongoing support. I can’t wait to see your documentary when it’s released!

  7. Kim says:

    Great post Mark! Amazing reflections written. Hope you have an amazing 36th birthday!

  8. Nana B says:

    Happy Happy Birthday Mark, Loved reading this post!!! Sounds like a special full circle weekend!!! Hugs and love to all :-) oxo

  9. Allison says:

    So happy to read that this place really does exist. Not the lake – I get that that exists :) The metaphorical “place, where happy and forward-thinking happens together and more easily.
    Thank you for this post (and happy birthday).

    • MarkNewman says:

      Hey Allison. It’s great to hear from you. I didn’t know this place existed for a very long time. I honestly felt that my future would be cut short and there are still days where I wonder. However, for the majority of the time I feel that I am ok and there’s still lots of time left for me. We are here for you. Say hi to Luka from us!

  10. Will says:

    Beautiful post.

  11. Angela says:


    I so can relate to many of your outlooks.

    Keeps sharing. You’re helping so many others heal.



    • MarkNewman says:

      Hey Ang. Thanks for the encouragement Ang. It’s not always easy to be so vulnerable but there is something truly healing in sharing our story.

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